Desperatly Seeking Advice!

[HannahMontana_9]

Today I lost my northface jacket at school :'(
In the morning, I put it in my locker and carried out my day.
And at the end of the day when I went to my locker to get my stuff
and get to the bus, It wasn't there! I'm pretty sure someone took it.... :'(:'( And I'm really scared on how I should tell my parents. They get mad for the smallest stuff. And I really loose things a lot so... :'(
I don't want them to find out, I want to tell them myself, before they do.
I just don't know how! My headhurts now from all the stressing out. :S

[NancyDrew]

Explain to them that there's a chance someone stole it. Say you're really sorry and hope they understand the possibly of it being stolen which is not your fault.

And I'm so sorry. :(

[huskerrich]

I agree with kara, please don't stress about, just come out and tell them.

[HannahMontana_9]

Thanks for the advice, both of you (:
I don't know..I'm really scared to tell them. They literally will freak.

[huskerrich]

you said you put it in your locker, I presume it was locked. You didn't say the locker was broken into, so that means you didn't lock it, or someone else knows the combination, or you never got it into the locker. I am not accusing you of anything, I am just throwing some ideas out.

[hannahlover2007]

Well, if your locker was locked, then
somebody had to know the combination
to get it...because if it's like ours, then when
you shut it you can't re open it unless the combination
is putt in again...so that could be a possibilty.

If nobody, absolutely nobody; even if you don't suspect them,
then maybe somebody could have stolen it. someehow.

or maybe you didn't put it in your locker. could it have been a possibility
that you left it somewhere.? the bus, the cafeteria, the gym, dropped it in
the hallway?

[HannahMontana_9]

I remember putting it into the locker in the morning. It was locked. I never leave my locker unlocked. No one else knows my combination

[NancyDrew]

If you were robbed than there's nothing they should blame you for. It does happen. My father was robbed of the very same thing. It's so sad but it does happen. AND they should not blame you on this at all.

[shopaholicoxxo]

I know how you feel! In 7th grade I decided to bring my iPod Nano to school with me and I kept it in my purse. I accidentally left my purse in one of my classes and didn't realize it until the next class I was in. After that class I went back to my previous one to get my purse, but when I opened my purse the iPod wasn't in it. I asked the teacher about it and she said she didn't have it. I never really found out what happened, but I know someone stole it.

My parents were pretty mad, but your situation is different because it was in your locker; and I'm assuming it was locked? So obviously you did everything you could rather than just leave it laying around like I did :P Just tell them and explain to them how you were really careful and it was really beyond your control. They might be mad at first but I'm sure they'll eventually understand and calm down. (:

[HannahMontana_9]

If you were robbed than there's nothing they should blame you for. It does happen. My father was robbed of the very same thing. It's so sad but it does happen. AND they should not blame you on this at all.
Thanks so much (:
This makes me feel better and less guilty.
But see, my parents don't understand stuff like that.
Should I wait until they notice or should I straight out tell them?

[hannahlover2007]

hmm, so you have no cluee?
well, since nobody know your combination,
stealing it is kinda out of the questionn.
unless they got a key. like most janitors carry
keys, and some teachers. and the main office staff
would (principal/vice principal/secretary). soo, if they
somehow got a key..?? that would be possiblee.

i would tell them, because it goes over better
that wayy, usually...
they really shouldn't blamee you for anything;
there was nothing you could have done. you did
everything in your power to prevent that, so idk
what they could get mad about.

[NancyDrew]

Being completely honest right away is probably the best thing. That way you look like your are taking responsiblity for this situation and you don't have to be caught with a direct accusation of where's your jacket?

[HannahMontana_9]

I don't know, its very weird. :/

[NancyDrew]

I know it is. It's a secruity that's been stolen from you as well. But if you're really honest with your parents about this I think they should understand this because it's a serious thing against you.

[HannahMontana_9]

And my mom is coming in less than 30 minutes and I want to tell her as soon as possible! I just don't have the courge to do it! Maybe when I bent down to get my binders and stuff someone took it? I don't know... it makes me feel like its my fault, if thats what happened!

[NancyDrew]

I'm not sure if someone could do that without you noticing.

[HannahMontana_9]

Yeah, I know. But it happened to me last year. =(

[NancyDrew]

You were robbed before?

[HannahMontana_9]

Oh yeah. I had this end of the year gift for my favorite teacher, and when I was getting my binders from my locker, I felt someone over me. Then, when I turned around no one was there. But then I thought I saw the gift wrap and someone holding it, but I wasn't sure. I tried to run and see where she went but she wasn't there. But that girl got expelled so I know its not the same person robbing me. I told my mom a day or two later. She wouldn't let it go! She still talks about it today. And she called me "stupid" and that was just the gift. This is something I own that she spent A LOT of money for!

[NancyDrew]

Hmm. That's a little smaller then a jacket. My advice is you have to been honest. You most likely can't hide it forever. BUT in the future, try to shut the locker more.

And how can they grab it while you're grabbing something from the locker? :S

[HannahMontana_9]

Well, there are a few shelves up on top...

[NancyDrew]

Still...that's kinda odd. You're right in front of it. Hmm. I would just do what you feel is best. And try to be EXTRA careful in the future so that hopefully this doesn't happen again. (:

[HannahMontana_9]

Thanks, Kara. (:
This really made me feel a whole lot better.
Ohh great, the phone is ringing...i think its my mom. :S

[NancyDrew]

I'm glad I could help! :D
And good luck! I hope everything works out! :)

[HannahMontana_9]

My mom's already mad at me right now for something... should I tell her when she's in a good mood?

[NancyDrew]

I would wait a little bit.

[HannahMontana_9]

I am so freaking out dude. It's not even funny. God please help me =(
My mom is in a REALLY mad mood. Theres like.. no one day when we haven't faught.
We really don't have a good relationship...

[vanessaroxs14]

If you absolutely know that someone took it then just tell them that.
If the get angry then they're wrong. Was the jacket expensive? Anyways
people lose jackets all the time, it happens. As long as it doesn't happen
like 5times.

[HannahMontana_9]

This was my moms favorite jacket she bought me. It was really expensive and when she first bought it like, last month, I tried it on, she was so happy. She loved it so much. And I can't bring myself to tell her.

[NancyDrew]

Aww. :( I'm sorry. That sucks. :(

[hannahlover2007]

oh. well, is she still mad??
i would try to tell her now, just
to get it over with, it's only gonna eat
at you until you do, or she finds out..
which is muchh worsee.

[V-ball Baby 101]

I argee with what everyone has said. When you stress about little stuff and then when you get to where you have to face that it's not that bad.
Have you told your mom?yet?

[HannahMontana_9]

No I haven't told her yet and its still eating my insides!

[NancyDrew]

Just calm down. Worrying about it will not help you. Whatever happens will not change whether you fret about it or not. (: Read a book, play a game, and let it leave your mind.

[HannahMontana_9]

I told her...she was screaming at me and right now im crying. She seemed so upset and Im so sad! She left saying she'll never buy me anything valuable ever again. She also said that I didn't deserve it and she worked for that money and she bought me something and she.. i dont know..shes so upset.. and im crying and.. what should i do?!

[NancyDrew]

Leave her alone right now. Just let her blow off steam. I will say that I don't think that's appropriate of her. I understand it cost money but it's not like you intently did this. I'm so sorry that happened. :( Try not to let that bother you and spend time with yourself doing something that can clear your mind of this. (:

[HannahMontana_9]

I know. ): She said shes upset because I didnt tell the school about it or anything...
edit; and i think i kinda agree with her.. but maybe thats just because i feel so bad. right now im crying because i feel bad of all the money she spent on me..im not crying because of myself.

[NancyDrew]

She should realize that when you're in the heat of the movement you don't always remember everything you should do.
And oh honey! You shouldn't beat yourself up about it or really feel too bad. Things do happen. Everybody does make mistakes and you were robbed. You can't always stop those things from happening. It sucks but it's a part of life.

[HannahMontana_9]

But again, thank you so much for the advice kara. You really helped me out. A lot. I really appriciate it. Any idea on when I should talk to her?

[shann71]

awww,maybe when you go to school you can check the lost and found
it sucks when people do crap like that,people do it out of pure jealousy that
you had a nice,northface jaacket-trust me,im dying to get one myself-but never
in a million years would i hurt someone to get it
is it possible that you didnt shut your locker the whole way?

[NancyDrew]

I'm glad I could help! :)

But I'd wait at least a day. Most people need time to cool off. And you might even wait a little bit longer if you think it wouldn't go well. Is there anyway you can contact the school and tell them of this? That might help.

[shann71]

it'd be kinda hard to tell the school bc if someone took it,they prob took it home

[HannahMontana_9]

awww,maybe when you go to school you can check the lost and found
it sucks when people do crap like that,people do it out of pure jealousy that
you had a nice,northface jaacket-trust me,im dying to get one myself-but never
in a million years would i hurt someone to get it
is it possible that you didnt shut your locker the whole way?
Thanks. I don't think its in the lost and found though.
When someone steals something, they take it home.

I'm glad I could help! :)

But I'd wait at least a day. Most people need time to cool off. And you might even wait a little bit longer if you think it wouldn't go well. Is there anyway you can contact the school and tell them of this? That might help.
Well, I dont know. I might just have to wait until Tuesday to tell the school. But I dont see if there is anything they can do anyway. My mom said that I should have told the school the moment it happened, that way they didnt take it home or whatever..but it was in the end of the day and people were leaving so I dont know what they could have done.

[NancyDrew]

I don't think you could have stopped them. And you didn't know who it was. Very hard to find it then. BUT I would try to find their number and contact them and see if there's anything they can do about this.

[HannahMontana_9]

Maybe I'll ask my mom to do that, when shes not mad at me. But right now, I just need to think things through. And I'm pretty sure my mom is gonna tell my dad. Ugh. I would appriciate if I could tell him myself but I'm pretty sure thats not happening.

[NancyDrew]

Good idea. And is there anyway you can catch him first?

[HannahMontana_9]

Catch who?

[NancyDrew]

Your father. Like when you see him first.

[HannahMontana_9]

I'm pretty sure she'll call him on the phone and tell him. But I don't care anymore. I think I'm just going to get off the computer. My mother clearly does not understand me, as always. And I'm always the one feeling bad, hopeless and guilty and all she does is yell I'm getting sick of it.
Thanks for your help Kara, But i'm leaving and I'll let you know how it goes.

[NancyDrew]

I see. And I don't blame you. It doesn't seem fair.
Okay. I hope it goes well! :)

[HannahMontana_9]

Alright.
So its good, but not so good. I think my mother calmed down now. And I went downstairs to apolgize but I'm not sure if she had accepted it or not.. all she said was that she is going to the school on Tuesday to make a huge complaint to the school.
So basically the real reason she was mad was because it was stolen and it also cost a lot. I'm not sure if she was mad at me, or the fact that it was stolen. Those are 2 different things. She just yelled at me to get her anger out I guess.

[NancyDrew]

Well, that's good. I think that's what she did. She was upset about the coat being stolen so she unleashed her anger out on you.

[HannahMontana_9]

Yeah. I asked her right now if she was mad at me and she said no. She said shes angry about the situation.
I guess we're all good now. Thanks a whole lot Kara. :)

[NancyDrew]

That's great! I'm so glad that things are much better. And I hope you can find the coat! :D And no problem! I'm just so glad this is settled with you and your mom and hopefully with that theif! http://209.85.48.8/14127/41/emo/glomp.gif (http://javascript<b></b>:add_smilie(":glomp:"))

[HannahMontana_9]

Haha, I don't think that theif is gonna change. I just know now, that I'll never bring expensive things to school! :D

[NancyDrew]

That's a very good idea! :D