fearing failure

[ChelseaJB]

This is for the older kids who think about their future a lot.
Do you know what you want to become and fear that you'll be bad at it?
Do you often what you would do if you couldn't do what you have dreamed of?

I for one want to be an author but I've been on about a three week writers block. If this was my career I couldn't afford taking that much time off and I often feel as if I have no idea where my life will go and it scares me to death.

Kind of a venting thread. hah

[AnnaMontana]

yes!! thank you so much for making this. but omg i feel like this all the time. i'm not even sure what i want to do really, but i just feel like there is no way it's gonna happen. no way i'll make it out ok. i just feel like i won't...you know...MAKE IT. i just won't make it. at all.

[ChelseaJB]

yeahh and especially with the economy and recession these days it makes you feel like there isn't any hope

[Julia--Miley]

i'm DEATHLY afraid of the future.

[AnnaMontana]

i'm DEATHLY afraid of the future.
i am very negative about my future. :/ i'm kind of a pessimest and i always think that the worst things will happen.
but at the same time i can't wait for college. because frankly i can not wait to leave this place behind. i just want to get out so bad. although AGAIN at the same time as that, i can't even begin to accept the idea of myself over 18 years old. and at the same time i don't even know where i'm going to college or what i want to do with my life.

yeahh and especially with the economy and recession these days it makes you feel like there isn't any hope
i know! ugh...it's horrible. like how will i afford college? how will i afford a home? how will i afford ANYTHING?
and idk about you guys but it's not like i'm from some super-rich, or even moderately wealthy family that can help me get started or anything.

[Julia--Miley]

i am very negative about my future. :/ i'm kind of a pessimest and i always think that the worst things will happen.
but at the same time i can't wait for college. because frankly i can not wait to leave this place behind. i just want to get out so bad. although AGAIN at the same time as that, i can't even begin to accept the idea of myself over 18 years old. and at the same time i don't even know where i'm going to college or what i want to do with my life.

i feel exactlyy the same. i just want a new start and i think college would be that. but yeah, i have no idea what i want to do with my life either :/ blah.

[AnnaMontana]

i feel exactlyy the same. i just want a new start and i think college would be that. but yeah, i have no idea what i want to do with my life either :/ blah.

i know. oh god i know. and it actually makes me feel good to talk about it and know someone else feels that way. ty haha.
i feel like i spend a lot of time focused on the future because i like it better than the present.
and i mean, i'm only 14 and have time to think about these things still. but yeah..

[$$jesse's girl$$]

i feel the same here
(( there is 4 month to finish my school i.m in the seniour year )) that so scray
idk if i .can go on or not

[AnnaMontana]

^good luck!
being a senior must be really tough, with the future so close and all...
i'd be so scared.

[$$jesse's girl$$]

^good luck!
being a senior must be really tough, with the future so close and all...
i'd be so scared.

yup so scared

my first term is over i .pass :D i. take 98%
but there the scand term it.s more hardest than the fiirst
please wish me luck :57:

[WhyAmIHere??]

^^good luck

I'm not as scared of the future as I used to be, because now I keep my mind open, and I've got it in my head that I can do anything if I believe in myself. and the way I see it is, no matter what the future brings, it'll be better than this place, I would be happy sleeping in horse-dung than live with my parents.

my career choices are:
1-radio broadcasting(being a DG on the radio)
2-graphic designer(making 3-D clips for films and games)
3-games programmer(types the codes needed to make a video game work)
4-actor/stunt double/jackass sort of thing.
5-singer(:$ )
6-mechatronics

[snuffalicious06]

Yes! I think about it all the time!

I'm in my last year of school and hopefully if I get the right grades I'm going to University next year to do Business and Management but there's some times when I think that it's going to be too hard for me and since I'm living away from home and there won't be much time for a job, how am I going to afford food? And other necessities?
Then I start to think what going to happen once I've finished Uni, am I going to get a good job? Am I going to be able to afford a house/mortgage?

Sometimes it scares the hell out of me!

[hotncleverchik]

Hey,
wow, this is definitely a great thread, that a lot of people can relate to!
I'm only 14, but I've alredy gotta choose options for my GCSEs. I'm really scared of that, cos it's a big risk... I'm trying to choose what I'm good at, but I don't know what career path i wanna take, and i don't know if I'll do well at all the new stuff that I've never done before.
My parents want me to be a barrister, my grandparents want me to be a doctor, and I wanna try accountancy. But my parents won't hear of it.
It's my future, but they don't see it that way, and i don't know what to do...

[WhyAmIHere??]

Parents stink, do what you want, when you leave home they can't control you anymore.

YOU HEAR THAT DADDY? I'M DOING MEDIA STUDIES!!!!!

[hotncleverchik]

Yeah, and they said that when I get to uni, i have to come home EVERY night!
But thats a physical impossibilty.
i'm gonna try explaining that to them :P

[smiley_smiley_miley]

yes! I am scared of my future, and failure. I've always wanted to be like a singer but then I realized there are tons of girls who have more talent then me, so i have up. Then i decided I wanted to be a lawyer, but what if that doesn't work out?? What am I going to do. Maybe I'm not smart enough. I always doubt myself and idk why.

[hotncleverchik]

I guess life is full of risks, and you've gotta take those.
you should have a plan b tho, so maybe if law doesnt work out, singing might?
dont give up on ur dreams :)

[CASSXIES]

I'm with you on wanting to be a writer, but theres always this little voice in the back of my head that tells me that it won't happen.
That there's like a 10 in 100 chance that I'd ever get published, and blah blah blah
and if that doesn't work out, I'd like to go into Marketing or something...but honestly, I just have no idea.
I'm not afraid of failure, I'm afraid of not moving on into adulthood.
hahaha

[devoniscrazyy]

I'm still in middle school, but I have the same fear. That I'll just not make it anywhere. I also want to be an author, and I rarely have enough inspiration. Another career I want would be an emergency medical doctor, and I don't think I could survive medical school. (i know its weird, I want to be a writer and a doctor.) The only thing I can really see myself doing as an adult is living in my parents basement. The future just creeps me out....

[ChelseaJB]

i feel the same here
(( there is 4 month to finish my school i.m in the seniour year )) that so scray
idk if i .can go on or not

good luck with everythingg! i'm a junior so i still have a little over a year left and I'm terrified.

know! ugh...it's horrible. like how will i afford college? how will i afford a home? how will i afford ANYTHING?
and idk about you guys but it's not like i'm from some super-rich, or even moderately wealthy family that can help me get started or anything.

oh yeah I'm definitely not wealthy. i'm trying to save as much money in the bank as i can so that hopefully i won't have too much trouble but then there will be college loans you have to pay off when you get out. its a never ending cycle

[Julia--Miley]

i know. oh god i know. and it actually makes me feel good to talk about it and know someone else feels that way. ty haha.
i feel like i spend a lot of time focused on the future because i like it better than the present.
and i mean, i'm only 14 and have time to think about these things still. but yeah..

yeah me too. i'm 17 and i'm graduating next year, i'm so scared that my grades aren't good enough and i won't get into a decent college.

[Mandyjonas]

omgsh, yes. :/
I want to major in music but not everyone is successful in that, you know. I don't have much faith in myself to actually succeed but it's what I want to do so I guess it's worth a shot. Well that's how I see it, anyway.

[Hannahfan_eva211]

This is for the older kids who think about their future a lot.
Do you know what you want to become and fear that you'll be bad at it?
Do you often what you would do if you couldn't do what you have dreamed of?

I for one want to be an author but I've been on about a three week writers block. If this was my career I couldn't afford taking that much time off and I often feel as if I have no idea where my life will go and it scares me to death.

Kind of a venting thread. hah
You know, i want to be a famous author also! Sometimes i think i won't make it past collage i wouldn't be smart enough. The truth is you have to follow your dream where ever it takes you. The truth is you don't know what comes your way or what your going to have to face. The hardest thing to face is life. Thats how i look at it.

[( soulmates )]

I personally want to pursue a career in music, preferably singing.
But I know singing/music is not a reliable career, and I couldn't possibly do it for as long
as my work-life will last.
My back-up is graphic design, and I'm hoping that this will work out well for me.

I don't really fear the future, because I know that the people behind me will be there,
no matter what happens.

[charmed_4evr]

I totally get what you mean. I still have no clue about what I want to do yet and that scares me to death. Im scared my grades wont be good enough to get into college. Im pretty much terrified of anything that has to do with the future.

[vanessaroxs14]

It is scary. All the tests, pressure, suspense, etc.

[ChelseaJB]

You know, i want to be a famous author also! Sometimes i think i won't make it past collage i wouldn't be smart enough. The truth is you have to follow your dream where ever it takes you. The truth is you don't know what comes your way or what your going to have to face. The hardest thing to face is life. Thats how i look at it.

Yeah I definitely agree with following your dream and not giving up.

I just need to find a way to take my writers block away haha i've tried a lot of thingss.

[dontwalkaway]

i've actually been thinking a lot about what i want to do in the future
ideally, i want to be an author, and i definitely will do something that involves writing, but i also want to have a family and all, so it'd probably end up being a career that involved lots of writing, though not of the "creative" kind or however.
idk. i guess i'm going to have to see which direction i pursue in college.

[*~MileyCyrus#1Fan~*]

lol yes. i'm not going to make it at all. i know i'm not ;) i'm not smart enough :P and i'm not even good at my so-called "talents"

[dontwalkaway]

oh, and as for your writer's block, i would try something called automatic writing.
what you do is either you open up a blank word document or you take a blank piece of paper.
and then, write whatever you happen to be thinking. not in poetic form, forget punctuation, whatever. it could start off with "i like cookies, but chocolate chip the best. they're best when they're crunchy on the outside and chewy on the inside. my friend is mad at me....", or whatever. and you keep writing and DO NOT STOP until your mind is absolutely blank, even if you have to write "i'm not sure what to write about."
it's intended to open up your mind and show you what you're really thinking about

[ChelseaJB]

oh, and as for your writer's block, i would try something called automatic writing.
what you do is either you open up a blank word document or you take a blank piece of paper.
and then, write whatever you happen to be thinking. not in poetic form, forget punctuation, whatever. it could start off with "i like cookies, but chocolate chip the best. they're best when they're crunchy on the outside and chewy on the inside. my friend is mad at me....", or whatever. and you keep writing and DO NOT STOP until your mind is absolutely blank, even if you have to write "i'm not sure what to write about."
it's intended to open up your mind and show you what you're really thinking about

huh thats actually a really good idea and one i haven't tried yet! i'll try that tonight when i have time

[Running_Girl]

In some ways I'm afraid of the future, and in some ways I'm not.
I want to be a photographer and I think I might have pretty good potential at it too.
Sometimes I'm afraid because I know I won't be able to pole vault [its basically my favorite thing ever] in college and onward and that makes me really sad so I just try and live it one day at a time.
And we [most of us on here] still have so long to decide what we want to do with out lives. I just try to think of it as the glass half full and be positive about all this.
Negativity gets you nowhere :)

[$$jesse's girl$$]

good luck with everythingg! i'm a junior so i still have a little over a year left and I'm terrified.



ya u should be lol jk
but school sometime seems fun & good ...:D

i. wish i can be a doctor and that able to be ...
but in the same time i,m friad i.m not good enough or it.s so hard
beside that there.s 4 month left
i,m not sure what i,m gonna do ??.
there .s alot a pressure on me

[ChelseaJB]

ya u should be lol jk
but school sometime seems fun & good ...:D

i. wish i can be a doctor and that able to be ...
but in the same time i,m friad i.m not good enough or it.s so hard
beside that there.s 4 month left
i,m not sure what i,m gonna do ??.
there .s alot a pressure on me

you can do whatever you want as long as you set your mind to it. ;]
good luckk.