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12-02-2006, 02:51 PM
Ok, I have a problem.
I have this friend who REALLY likes this guy. She's liked him forever, and she pretty much stalks him. Trouble is, I really like him too. I can't like him, though, because she has "claims" on him. He's a really amazing guy. His nickname is "Mr. Golden" because "everything he touches turns to gold". He's smart, funny, nice, athletic, cute, ect. I could go on forever. I have to work on this big school project with him that requires him coming over to my house. I sit next to him in almost every class, and we talk a lot becuase we're good friends and we have a lot in common. My friend is mad at me because I'm "flirting" with him, which I'm not. I'm trying to be his friend, but not let on that I like him. I'm hoping that part of the relationship develops over time. Trouble is, if I ever really do show that I like him, my friend will literally kill me.
Any advice?
I know it seems kinda stupid, but it matters to me!
First, no it doesnt seem stupid at all. It would matter a lot to me too. But wow, it seems like he's that perfect guy... but dont let it fool you. even though he may seem perfect, he's only human and there has to be something that isnt perfect. but see this is one of those confusing situations where you have to decide who means more, the guy or the friend. There is the saying friends are forever boyfriends are whatever. but the other side of that is that if you really like him he can become one of ur best friends and turn that saying into no importance anymore. so well right now you dont really have to chose one over the other. just tell your friend im not trying to flirt, im just trying to be his friend. and then maybe by the time that the "more then friends" part of the relationship forms, she'll have already found someone else. so dont ruin your friendship with her now by telling her you like him. so no, dont show you like him now, cuz u dont want to get her mad at you... but one day, you probably will beable to show that you like him. without her getting mad at you. and its great that you get to work on a project with him and you sit next to him in ur classes... cuz it gives you guys a lot of opportunities to talk. and the fact that you have a lot in common is also great cuz you cant have a relationship with someone you dont have anything in common with. so just keep trying to get to be better and better friends with him... and then maybe one day something more will come out of it!
~Hope it helps!
I have this friend who REALLY likes this guy. She's liked him forever, and she pretty much stalks him. Trouble is, I really like him too. I can't like him, though, because she has "claims" on him. He's a really amazing guy. His nickname is "Mr. Golden" because "everything he touches turns to gold". He's smart, funny, nice, athletic, cute, ect. I could go on forever. I have to work on this big school project with him that requires him coming over to my house. I sit next to him in almost every class, and we talk a lot becuase we're good friends and we have a lot in common. My friend is mad at me because I'm "flirting" with him, which I'm not. I'm trying to be his friend, but not let on that I like him. I'm hoping that part of the relationship develops over time. Trouble is, if I ever really do show that I like him, my friend will literally kill me.
Any advice?
I know it seems kinda stupid, but it matters to me!
First, no it doesnt seem stupid at all. It would matter a lot to me too. But wow, it seems like he's that perfect guy... but dont let it fool you. even though he may seem perfect, he's only human and there has to be something that isnt perfect. but see this is one of those confusing situations where you have to decide who means more, the guy or the friend. There is the saying friends are forever boyfriends are whatever. but the other side of that is that if you really like him he can become one of ur best friends and turn that saying into no importance anymore. so well right now you dont really have to chose one over the other. just tell your friend im not trying to flirt, im just trying to be his friend. and then maybe by the time that the "more then friends" part of the relationship forms, she'll have already found someone else. so dont ruin your friendship with her now by telling her you like him. so no, dont show you like him now, cuz u dont want to get her mad at you... but one day, you probably will beable to show that you like him. without her getting mad at you. and its great that you get to work on a project with him and you sit next to him in ur classes... cuz it gives you guys a lot of opportunities to talk. and the fact that you have a lot in common is also great cuz you cant have a relationship with someone you dont have anything in common with. so just keep trying to get to be better and better friends with him... and then maybe one day something more will come out of it!
~Hope it helps!