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12-02-2006, 03:23 PM
I have a big problem.
We were going to get our Christmas tree today. My dad got in from traveling for work really late last night. I asked my mom why my dad wasn't coming with us to get the tree. She said she's tired of "being his mother". She started complaining that she's always telling him what to do, and that couples should work together, not just one person.
He's always late for things, and he just doesn't care about our family. He travels a lot, and often gets in really late, but he also stays up til 1:00am watcing TV sometimes.
My mom flipped out, and we didn't get a Christmas Tree. My parents started yelling at each other a lot, and it scared me. I tried to tune it out with the TV. My mom came to me afterward and said "I might as well be a single parent because he never does anything". She doesn't love him anymore, and she thinks that she's giving me a bad childhood. They're one step away from a divorce.
I know it's not my fault, but it's really really bothering me. Help!
Well you've already made the most important realization that you can make... that its not your fault. so thats reallyyy good that you know that! but u cant control what your parents do. and think about it this way - wouldnt your parents getting a divorce possibly be better then them not being in love anymore and fighting all the time. i mean i know it isnt easy to have ur parents go through a divorce and for you to live with your mom and then see your dad like on weekends or whatever, but wouldnt it be better then always having to listen to their yelling. But until then, you just have to TRY your very hardest to ignore it. and no, thats not going to be easy but just turn on the tv or music and escape into another world... your "happy place". ya know, just somewhere that their fighting doesnt get to you. and you also have to just not stress too much or get to scared or whatever, because in all honesty, you dont have control over what your parents decide to do. so you might as well make the best of whatever happens. my mom does the same thing with the "i hate being his mother" thing. but i think that guys/men are just immature sometimes, and they dont always notice whats going on around them and how what they are doing is effecting others (no offence to any guy that reads this!!). so its not just your dad, and your mom probably know that. so if they do get divorced, its not going to be just based off of that. but either way, just try to be as happy as you can. and it might seem hard at first, but whatever they decide to do will be the best for both them, and you. have that much faith in your parents... they'll do the best thing for you.
~Hope it helps!
We were going to get our Christmas tree today. My dad got in from traveling for work really late last night. I asked my mom why my dad wasn't coming with us to get the tree. She said she's tired of "being his mother". She started complaining that she's always telling him what to do, and that couples should work together, not just one person.
He's always late for things, and he just doesn't care about our family. He travels a lot, and often gets in really late, but he also stays up til 1:00am watcing TV sometimes.
My mom flipped out, and we didn't get a Christmas Tree. My parents started yelling at each other a lot, and it scared me. I tried to tune it out with the TV. My mom came to me afterward and said "I might as well be a single parent because he never does anything". She doesn't love him anymore, and she thinks that she's giving me a bad childhood. They're one step away from a divorce.
I know it's not my fault, but it's really really bothering me. Help!
Well you've already made the most important realization that you can make... that its not your fault. so thats reallyyy good that you know that! but u cant control what your parents do. and think about it this way - wouldnt your parents getting a divorce possibly be better then them not being in love anymore and fighting all the time. i mean i know it isnt easy to have ur parents go through a divorce and for you to live with your mom and then see your dad like on weekends or whatever, but wouldnt it be better then always having to listen to their yelling. But until then, you just have to TRY your very hardest to ignore it. and no, thats not going to be easy but just turn on the tv or music and escape into another world... your "happy place". ya know, just somewhere that their fighting doesnt get to you. and you also have to just not stress too much or get to scared or whatever, because in all honesty, you dont have control over what your parents decide to do. so you might as well make the best of whatever happens. my mom does the same thing with the "i hate being his mother" thing. but i think that guys/men are just immature sometimes, and they dont always notice whats going on around them and how what they are doing is effecting others (no offence to any guy that reads this!!). so its not just your dad, and your mom probably know that. so if they do get divorced, its not going to be just based off of that. but either way, just try to be as happy as you can. and it might seem hard at first, but whatever they decide to do will be the best for both them, and you. have that much faith in your parents... they'll do the best thing for you.
~Hope it helps!