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11-28-2006, 04:45 PM
Hi! I really like the advicecolumn, so I thought maybe you could help me. :)
Ok, here it goes. I have a lot of true, real friends that I love more than anything. We've been through a lot together, good and bad stuff, and they've helped me through tough times like when my grandfather died, when my cousin died in a car accident, when my parents got separated and a lot of other things, too. But the one person I see as my BEST friend, has another best friend. I'm her second. Not that there's anything wrong with that, but it kind of hurts my feelings to know that she sees someone else as a better friend than me - when she's mine. I'm always there for her and she's always there for me. We do the craziest and funniest things together and we make each other happy. When her boyfriend broke up with her, she sent me a text message that woke me up in the middle of the night. I got dressed and went over to sleep at her house so she could have someone to talk to. Of course, when I asked if "M"(not giving out her name - her other best friend) knew about it, she said "of course, she knows everything". And don't get me wrong, I do not take my other friends for granted, not at all, but still, she is the one I see as my best friend. I know she loves me and I know I mean a lot to her, but she is like the most amazing person in the world and I don't know what I'd do without her. I want to be that amazing person for her, too, but it's hard when that place is already taken by someone I don't know.
-LostPrincess
It might be hard to not be her "number one" when shes yours. but it doesnt seem like you have to worry about losing her, so you dont have to think about how upset you would be if you lost her, cuz it doesnt seem like you are going to. it seems like she charishes your friendship so much. and thhe fact that she texted you in the middle of the night and got you to go over to her house shows that she does charish your friendship, possibly more then her other friend... because u didnt see her other friend getting a text in the middle of the night and then going over he house. but to me it seems like theres nothing to worry about. sure it might make you happier if you knew you were her "number one". but being her number two is just as good. the fact that you know shes always there for you and she knows that your always there for her is one of the most important things you can have in a friendship. and if she knows that you are truely always there for her, it doesnt seem possible for her to not love you (in a friend way). and its might not even be that she likes the other person more... it may be that shes trying harder with the other person because shes not already such great friends with her. she knows that you already are her best friend and therefore she doesnt have to try as hard to win you over or gain your friendship. i wouldnt worry about anything yet, cuz it doesnt seem like you are losing her or anything... so dont sweat it.
~Hope it helps!
Ok, here it goes. I have a lot of true, real friends that I love more than anything. We've been through a lot together, good and bad stuff, and they've helped me through tough times like when my grandfather died, when my cousin died in a car accident, when my parents got separated and a lot of other things, too. But the one person I see as my BEST friend, has another best friend. I'm her second. Not that there's anything wrong with that, but it kind of hurts my feelings to know that she sees someone else as a better friend than me - when she's mine. I'm always there for her and she's always there for me. We do the craziest and funniest things together and we make each other happy. When her boyfriend broke up with her, she sent me a text message that woke me up in the middle of the night. I got dressed and went over to sleep at her house so she could have someone to talk to. Of course, when I asked if "M"(not giving out her name - her other best friend) knew about it, she said "of course, she knows everything". And don't get me wrong, I do not take my other friends for granted, not at all, but still, she is the one I see as my best friend. I know she loves me and I know I mean a lot to her, but she is like the most amazing person in the world and I don't know what I'd do without her. I want to be that amazing person for her, too, but it's hard when that place is already taken by someone I don't know.
-LostPrincess
It might be hard to not be her "number one" when shes yours. but it doesnt seem like you have to worry about losing her, so you dont have to think about how upset you would be if you lost her, cuz it doesnt seem like you are going to. it seems like she charishes your friendship so much. and thhe fact that she texted you in the middle of the night and got you to go over to her house shows that she does charish your friendship, possibly more then her other friend... because u didnt see her other friend getting a text in the middle of the night and then going over he house. but to me it seems like theres nothing to worry about. sure it might make you happier if you knew you were her "number one". but being her number two is just as good. the fact that you know shes always there for you and she knows that your always there for her is one of the most important things you can have in a friendship. and if she knows that you are truely always there for her, it doesnt seem possible for her to not love you (in a friend way). and its might not even be that she likes the other person more... it may be that shes trying harder with the other person because shes not already such great friends with her. she knows that you already are her best friend and therefore she doesnt have to try as hard to win you over or gain your friendship. i wouldnt worry about anything yet, cuz it doesnt seem like you are losing her or anything... so dont sweat it.
~Hope it helps!