Concered about a classmate...

[Hannah Montana = Life <3]

Alright, so here is the deal. There is a girl named Shelby in my grade, and quite frankly she's a preppy prep of whatever. But she is one of the only nice "populars" and we've talked numerous times. Well, she has always been average size, probrably around 110 or 115 pound I would guess. So basically she wasn't a stick. But yesterday I was looking (NOT in a perverted way mind you) and I had noticed she looked VERY skinny. I have a feeling she's not eating because I don't know why but it seems like Shelby is one of the girls who would do that. BUT then again she could've just been wearing an outfit that made her look smaller yesterday, yet honestly I doubt that. So what I'm trying to say is, I really don't know what to do. I mean, I can't go up to her and say "you look skinny, are you eating?" am I right? And I don't want to stalk her. Basically I am stuck between a girl and a sandwitch here (haha yes i meant it to be funny so sorry if it wasnt lol). PLease help me!!!

Sinceraly,
Can't spell sinceraly o_0[/quote]

haha first - girl and a sandwhich... that was funny... hehehe
okay so if you've talked to her a few times and feel close enough then you probably cant just walk up to her and be like are you eating? cuz my friend did that with me and im not saying it fixed all my problems, but it started to make me realize i had a problem. but wait it out a little bit... see if she looks just as skinny the rest of the week.. nd look for her at lunch to make sure shes there and that shes eating... and if you see that she isnt then you can confront her and be like i dont wanna be awkward but im concerned. or if you dont feel comfortable talking to her then go to a school counsler, i know that probably doesnt sound like the coolest thing to do, but they are there to help and they will beable to tell you what to do. but if you try to talk to her about it, it might show her she has someone who cares about her and doesnt want her to keep hurting herself, and it might make her realize she has a problem and needs help.

~Hope it helps!

[snowpup]

Awsome, thanks. Haha, tomorrow I'm gonna be looking around the gym (our cafeteria currently urg) to see if I can find her. I really do feel for Shelby, and my friends are also pretty close to her so that'll make things a little better. Thanks a million Jess!!!!

Oh yeah and uh... I have a prob too but I dunno what to really do about it... related to this topic btw

[Sportchick]

thatz great advice

[xx_mileyrocks_xx]

haha very random but shelby is my name!! haha

[gurlzrock101]

haha first - girl and a sandwhich... that was funny... hehehe
okay so if you've talked to her a few times and feel close enough then you probably cant just walk up to her and be like are you eating? cuz my friend did that with me and im not saying it fixed all my problems, but it started to make me realize i had a problem. but wait it out a little bit... see if she looks just as skinny the rest of the week.. nd look for her at lunch to make sure shes there and that shes eating... and if you see that she isnt then you can confront her and be like i dont wanna be awkward but im concerned. or if you dont feel comfortable talking to her then go to a school counsler, i know that probably doesnt sound like the coolest thing to do, but they are there to help and they will beable to tell you what to do. but if you try to talk to her about it, it might show her she has someone who cares about her and doesnt want her to keep hurting herself, and it might make her realize she has a problem and needs help.

~Hope it helps!


that reminds me, a lot of people call me anerexicthen i will be like um noooooo and then their like ur belimic so I'm just like how would you say one thing and go to the next and just because I'm skinny doesn't mean that I'm anerexic and that stuff so don't think that alll the time I hate when peoplez say that about me but if she thinks she's fat then yeah she might be anerexic but i have a big matabolism so she could have that too

[Baby Vanessa]

that reminds me, a lot of people call me anerexicthen i will be like um noooooo and then their like ur belimic so I'm just like how would you say one thing and go to the next and just because I'm skinny doesn't mean that I'm anerexic and that stuff so don't think that alll the time I hate when peoplez say that about me but if she thinks she's fat then yeah she might be anerexic but i have a big matabolism so she could have that toopeople tell me that all the time too beacuse I'm 11 years old and I wiegh 60 pounds I hate especially beacuse the guys who my freind like likes me because I'm skiny it's so annoying

[i wuv miley cyrus]

haha very random but shelby is my name!! haha

hahaha, yeah thats weird. lol. :lol:

[Mileyforever556]

When you are popular and is she pretty

[Mileyforever556]

I am also under this presher when you ar epoular and pretty you have to look awesome it is hard and soon gets you under a lot of pressure sometimes girls put them selves on diets when they cant eat

[snowpup]

When you are popular and is she pretty

Huh? What are you saying? o_0

[Mileyforever556]

is she pretty

[Hannah Montana = Life <3]

is she pretty

it shouldnt matter if shes pretty...being pretty doesnt make it any more likely to become anorexic or have an eating disorder of any type then if you arent necessarily considered to be beautiful...

[snowpup]

is she pretty

Yeah... she's pretty I guess? o_0

[Mileyforever556]

ok if she is pretty and popular she might me under alot of pressure but no one knows what feally is going on with her

[snowpup]

ok if she is pretty and popular she might me under alot of pressure but no one knows what feally is going on with her

Yeah, she is the most known prep in school, but the nicest. So yeah, she is very pretty and popular... that's for sure.

[perfect10n]

You are deffinetly right you shouldn't just go up to her and acuse her of having an eating disorder. But Hannah monatna = life is right too if you feel close enoguh to her then you might want to gently ask her about it, and see if she is okay, if she is not eating then you should deffinetly try to talk her out of it. if she refuses your advice then talk to a school counceler about her and try and have a meeting with the councelor, shelby and you set up so you can talk about it and maybe even find a solution. This way you can help a friend with out causing more of problem. it may seem like adults don't care or they don't notice or don't want to help, but 9 times out of 10 they do want to help and they are conserned especially a school councelor becuase it is their job, why would they take the job with out being ready to handle these situations, and you are just a kid you shouldn't have to handle something like that on your own.

I hope you find a sulotion (if there is even realy a problem.)