Re: Best Friend Troubles

[Absolute_Lovex3]

Well, i hve 2 bffs, one of them i've been bffs with since kindergarten (we'll call her bff1) and the other i've been bffs with since like the 4th or 5th grade (and we'll call her bff2). im in 7th grade now and things aren't going too great. now, i've been having troubles with the 2 of them since the beggining of last year. im still bffs with the both of them but bff1 and bff2 are starting not to get along with each other. im having some trouble with bff2 also but not as bad as bff1. whenever all three of us are together we always get into some sort of fight or arguement. i really don't want to "break-up" with either of them but if i have to im almost ready to tell bff2 that i can't be bffs with her anymore. she can be really "violent" sometimes too. like last week, we were talking and i gave her a small hit because of something she said. we then laughed after it but right after we laughed she said "ok you want to starting hitting" and she punched me really hard on my arm. now, im not a wimp but my arm just stopped hurting 2 days ago. bff1 and i have told our moms becuase my mom, bff1's mom, and bff2's mom are all like best friends. since our parents are such good friends and don't want to get their friendship messed up so they told us to figure it out by ourselves. they gave us some advice but none of it wasn't really "useable." bff1 and i are to the point of telling her off the next time she hits or kicks us really hard. now i don't want to lose either one of them but i don't know what to do!!!! can you help me?????

Well, friends do fight alot My friends who have been friends with each other since preschool used to fight so much! They fought alot in seventh grade, and they told me they were just getting sick of each other after all these years. Friends do get on other friends nerves! Try to each find your space maybe have a little chit chat with your friends. Maybe you guys have been together for to long, but that doesn't mean you should break up the friendship. Maybe talk over the phone so your one friend can't hurt you, and try to clear lots of problems up. Try going over someones house and having the adult help you guys with some problem solving, and with your friends hitting problems.

[DreamerGurl1020]

thanks soooo much!!! ill have to try that sometime soon!!! hopefully our friendship problems will get better. thank you thank you thank you!!!!!!!!!!!

[xx_mileyrocks_xx]

I have a problem too..

well it seems lately all i do is fight with my friends. we just dont get along anymore. My friend M (well just call her M) and N (well just call her N). they've formed thier group and A (JUST A) and i cant be in it. its not like they literally tell us "you cant be in our group" but we cant really hang out with them because they always reject us and sice we're in middle school we eat lunch wherever we want. i dont have any classes with M and N but they still dont sit with us. M, A, and N are saying ive been really mean lately.. and acting wierd. what do i do? i just dont understand.. im hurt, confused, lonely.. and most of all sad.

[greengibs411]

well I have a best guy friend and latley he has been actin all weird like he likes me should i go by your song and say he could be the right girl

[DreamerGurl1020]

song......do you mean the song that's in my info????

[Smily4life]

well see. Friends may not get a long. but if you dont like her hitting you, then talk to her. dont yell, just talk. that is the good way to confront her.

[mileyrocksbigtime]

I have a problem
Me and my friend fight over the littlest thing(Well,my friend does)And I don't want her to be wondering ALL around my life,And shes the friend i got!

[pksllayer]

I have a problem too..

well it seems lately all i do is fight with my friends. we just dont get along anymore. My friend M (well just call her M) and N (well just call her N). they've formed thier group and A (JUST A) and i cant be in it. its not like they literally tell us "you cant be in our group" but we cant really hang out with them because they always reject us and sice we're in middle school we eat lunch wherever we want. i dont have any classes with M and N but they still dont sit with us. M, A, and N are saying ive been really mean lately.. and acting wierd. what do i do? i just dont understand.. im hurt, confused, lonely.. and most of all sad.

Well i guess the best course of action here would be to give them a little space then go talk to them in private. Drop them an email or something ask them whats up catch up with them about waht has been happening. if they don't respond then i guess they've just decided to move on and forget about their old chum. I know it hurts to have your friends leave you just like that but if theyre being unfirendly and mean i think they just dont want your friendship anymore and you should leave them alone for a while and make some new friends. Perhaps you should also examine yourself tosee what has changed in you if anything has and find out if you are the reason that they dont want to be your friends anymore. if its possible at a later date when perhaps they have become more matured in their thinking you should again extend your hand of friendship to them, perhaps they might respond to you better when they know a little more about life.

[iluvmileynhannah]

I have a problem too..

well it seems lately all i do is fight with my friends. we just dont get along anymore. My friend M (well just call her M) and N (well just call her N). they've formed thier group and A (JUST A) and i cant be in it. its not like they literally tell us "you cant be in our group" but we cant really hang out with them because they always reject us and sice we're in middle school we eat lunch wherever we want. i dont have any classes with M and N but they still dont sit with us. M, A, and N are saying ive been really mean lately.. and acting wierd. what do i do? i just dont understand.. im hurt, confused, lonely.. and most of all sad.

well first off lucky you you get to sit wherever you want @ lunch in middle school i'm a freshman in high school now, but when we were in middle school we had assigned tables
second off, M and N don't sound like very good friends to you or A (where did A come from? is s/he another friend of yours?)- i suggest you call your friends on the phone and talk to them each separately one-on-one and see what they say. you have to be the judge, if you think you've outgrown the friendship, then i would start searching for a new group. whatever happens, happens. i always say to myself, no matter how hard it is, i'll still be sleeping in my bed tonight. it's kind of stupid, but i've used that since the first day of kindergarten when i was afraid i would get on the wrong bus.

lots of luck!

[smiley_smiley_miley]

Ok, well in Middle school a lot of people change, and you make new friends. I have had a best friend for 5 years, until middle school and we wern't really that good of friends that more, it's sad but you gotta move on. But try talking to your friends, your friendship might become more strong.

[Best_Of_Both_Worlds]

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[j-blue-stars]

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